FRIDAY, MARCH 18, 2016 | WEST HAWAII TODAY 4B Dear Annie: My husband, “Derek” and I have been married for 18 years and we have four children. Lately, I feel like a piece of meat. Derek wants sex every day and grabs my breasts constantly. If I refuse, he pouts. Derek recently lost his job and we were evicted, so we moved in with my mom. The longest Derek has ever held a job is four years. He looks for work, but then sits and plays games on the computer while my mom and I do chores and help the kids with their homework. I was raised with a strong work ethic, and have been the primary breadwinner for most of our marriage. I resent Derek for not respecting me when I say no to his constant demands for sex. Even in the midst of a kidney infection, he still wanted me to mess around. I am ready to leave him over these issues. Please help. — Indiana Sex Object Dear Indiana: We think Derek feels inadequate as a provider, and instead of fixing that, he uses sex as a way to control the relationship and keep you in what he sees as a subservient position. But lest we be accused of practicing psychiatry without a license, we strongly urge you to get into counseling and figure this out. Derek may have adult ADD or some other problem that interferes with his ability to hold onto a job. Obviously, it would be best if Derek would go with you for counseling, but if not, go on your own. Check to see if your workplace has an employee assistance program that can help. There also are low-cost counseling options available through your clergyperson, United Way, Catholic Charities and the Department of Children and Family Services. Dear Annie: Wow, I was so surprised by your comment to “Outraged in Pennsylvania,” that her husband’s girlie calendar was none of her business. Most women I know would be upset if their husband willingly encouraged the exploitation of women by allowing this calendar to hang for all the other boys to ogle in the bathroom. This is sleazy. If a woman has any class or values, this would bother her, as it goes against everything women have been fighting for — not to be looked at as sexual objects and to be taken seriously. It’s offensive at any workplace, whether women are present or not. If it were my husband, this would be a huge character issue. For women like you to say this is OK is shocking! — K. Dear K.: Please read more carefully. We did not say this was OK. In fact, we agree with everything you say about it being sleazy and exploitative. Here is where we differ: She should not be telling her husband how to run his office. We would say the same if her husband objected to something at his wife’s office — it’s none of his business. She has registered her complaint with him, but how he deals with it is entirely his decision, not hers. If she finds his response to be inadequate or offensive, and it changes how she feels about him, that is a different matter and should be taken up with the nearest marriage counselor. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Email questions to anniesmailbox@ creators.com, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd St., Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Find Annie at Facebook.com/AskAnnies. To find out more about Annie’s Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit creators.com. 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For strategies on how to solve Sudoku, visit www.sudoku.org.uk. GOREN BRIDGE WITH BOB JONES ©2016 Tribune Content Agency, LLC IN THE AIR Neither vulnerable. West deals. NORTH ♠ 10 8 5 ♥ A 5 3 2 ♦ K 10 ♣ J 5 3 2 WEST EAST ♠ 7 6 3 2 ♠ 4 ♥ Q 6 4 ♥ K J 10 9 ♦ A4 ♦ J 8 7 5 ♣ A K 10 8 ♣ Q 7 6 4 SOUTH ♠ A K Q J 9 ♥ 8 7 ♦ Q 9 6 3 2 ♣ 9 The bidding: WEST NORTH EAST SOUTH 1♣ Pass 1♥ 1♠ 2♥ 2♠ 3♣ 3♦ Pass 4♠ All pass Opening lead: Ace of ♣ South’s three-diamond bid was a “need help” game try, telling partner that a useful holding in the diamond suit might make game a possibility. North did have a useful diamond holding. He would have preferred holding a fourth trump rather than just three, but he bravely bid the game anyway. West continued with the king of clubs at trick two, ruffed by South. Declarer led a low diamond to the king and successfully ran the 10 of diamonds to West’s ace. West persevered with a third club and South ruffed again. Too late, declarer realized that he could no longer make the hand. The 4-1 trump split meant that he could not draw all the trumps. Neither could he complete a crossruff, as the defense would be able to gain the lead in hearts and play a trump. Declarer was a bit unlucky, but a bad trump split was “in the air.” East was known to have at least four hearts, at least four clubs, and at least three diamonds. One extra card in any one of those suits would leave him with a singleton spade. South could have prevailed by simply discarding a low heart on the third club. Should the defense continue clubs, there would be an easy crossruff for 10 tricks. A trump shift by the defense instead and South could ruff a diamond and draw trumps. The fifth diamond would be his tenth trick. (Bob Jones welcomes readers’ responses sent in care of this newspaper or to Tribune Content Agency, LLC., 16650 Westgrove Dr., Suite 175, Addison, TX 75001. E-mail responses may be sent to tcaeditors@tribune.com.) Sudoku By The Mepham Group Solution to Thursday’s puzzle © 2016 The Mepham Group. Distributed by Tribune Content Agency. All rights reserved. 3/18/16 ANNIE’S MAILBOX | ADVICE Husband needs to respect his wife Friday, March 18, 2016 CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DAY: Lily Collins, 27; Adam Levine, 37; Queen Latifah, 46; Vanessa Williams, 53. Happy Birthday: Progressive thinking will keep you in the game and on the road to victory. Don’t let the little things bog you down. Look at the big picture and strive to reach your goals. Good fortune is within reach and will come from a most unusual source. Take care of personal matters quickly and don’t leave anything to chance. Pay close attention to details. Your numbers are 7, 11, 18, 23, 28, 34, 48. ARIES (March 21-April 19): Be vocal and set the record straight. Share openly and with passion. Once you have made your position clear, others will know where you stand and how to encourage you to reach your objective. Your friends will help you make the right choice. 5 stars TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Make some needed alterations to your domestic environment, and try to free up your time for more pleasurable pastimes. Romance is on the rise. Make special plans to get together with your loved ones. 2 stars GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Problems will surface if you differ from the norm. Try to work alone or look for a spiritual or physical outlet that will help you put any stress-related situations out of mind. Make personal perfection your goal. 4 stars CANCER (June 21-July 22): Reach for the top of the mountain you are trying to climb. Don’t be afraid to go beyond your comfort zone to find answers or solutions to any problems you face. Love should be your priority. 3 stars LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Stick to what you know and do best. You will capture attention if you go above and beyond what’s expected of you. Someone who can help you advance will show interest in what else you have to say and offer. 3 stars VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Make your money work for you. Don’t take a risk when there are better ways to make a profit without sacrificing your peace of mind. Practicality coupled with doing things your way will be your ticket to financial freedom. 3 stars LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Evaluate your personal and professional relationships and consider who is helpful and who isn’t. You can make subtle changes that will give you more time to spend with the people who can be a positive influence in your life. 4 stars SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Your magnetic personality will impress some people, but it will also drum up jealousy in others. A humble, gracious approach to whatever you do or say will help you temper any discord that may arise. 2 stars SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Embellishing the truth in order to be entertaining will backfire. Stick to the facts and don’t get ahead of yourself. If you are honest, you will impress the people who are the most important to you. 5 stars CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Explore something you are not familiar with, and you will discover a new way to handle some difficulties you are currently facing. Reach inside and question your motives, and you will be able to make a constructive change. 3 stars AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Put more energy into achieving your personal goals. Set up a routine or get into a program that will help you look and be at your best. An emotional relationship will improve if you get involved in a joint endeavor. 3 stars PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Stick to your original plan. If you are too ambitious, you could end up putting yourself in debt. Take care of your health and well-being, and avoid taking unnecessary risks that can lead to physical injury. 3 stars Birthday Baby: You are imaginative, proactive and engaging. You are daring and permissive. 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