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WEST HAWAII TODAY |TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 15, 2015
Dear Annie:
Last
summer, our family spent
all of our time helping my
newly widowed mother-
in-law fix up her large
home, which had become
run down during her
husband’s long illness.
During one of the
days I took off to help,
she backed into the
side of our car, causing
damage. The repair
estimate was $1,000,
but she didn’t want
to claim it on her
insurance for fear her
rates would go up. My
husband didn’t want
to ask her to pay, so we
simply drove around
with a giant dent in
our car. Last week, we
were in an accident and
our car was totaled.
The value we received
was reduced because
of the prior damage.
My husband and I
work public service jobs
with low wages, and my
mother-in-law often
talks about how she’s
investing her half-million
dollars. Am I wrong to
think she should pay for
the damage she caused
to our car while we were
fixing her home to save
her money? — Trying
Not to be Resentful
Dear Trying:
We
understand why you
expected Mom to pay
for the damage, and
she should have offered
to do so. Nonetheless,
we are asking you
to think of this with
compassion. Mom is
widowed and her ability
to generate income is
undoubtedly reduced.
That “half-million dollar”
investment has to last
her the rest of her life,
while you and your
husband will continue to
earn. Discuss this with
your husband and come
to a mutual decision. He
is obviously reluctant to
ask Mom to pay for this,
and perhaps it would
be easier to ask her to
split the cost. Whatever
happens, please allow
your husband to deal
with this as he sees fit,
and do your best to
forget the rest. It won’t
help to dwell on it.
Dear Annie:
You
printed a letter from
“No One to Share This
With,” about her husband
continually watching
porn. Her husband is
likely a sex addict and
his wife is 100 percent
correct that he is likely
filled with shame.
I am a sex addict
and a porn addict. I
go to 12-step meetings
and I have a sponsor.
Luckily, I have managed
to stay away from porn
for seven years. While
getting into a 12-step
program is probably
the best thing for this
woman’s husband, he
will be highly unwilling
to go. Something in
his life will need to
completely fall apart
before he is ready to ask
for help. Once he does,
a 12-step meeting, and
possibly a Certified Sex
Addiction Therapist can
help him tremendously.
But until then, nothing
will break him free
from his computer for
any length of time.
Many people don’t
believe that sex addiction
is a real thing, but let
me tell you, it is. When
sex addicts look at porn,
the dopamine receptors
in the brain take off.
We used to have to
seek out our fathers’
girlie magazines, but
with the Internet, every
teenager has Porn TV in
his back pocket. — G.
Dear G.: T
hank you
for being the voice of
experience today.
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old-style
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“Shoo-be-doo-
be-doo-wop,” e.g.
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Fancy tie
15
Ones steeped
in tradition in
England?
16
“___ be in
England”
(Browning line)
17
Frequent Bart
Simpson antic
19
Chicken condo?
20
Critique
scathingly
21
Lowly worker
22
Chili con ___
23
Ask the boss for
more vacation
time after getting
a raise, perhaps
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Befitting
29
Org. for “King
James”
30
“Finding Nemo”
setting
31
Biblical kingdom
or its Utah
namesake
32
Birds flying in a
V formation
34
Scold a person
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vessel
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I Can’t Believe
It’s Not Butter!
product
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[Oh, I can’t go
on!]
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Frat guy
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Camden Yards
team
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the year 1620
inscribed on it
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prepared text
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Ubangi
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Message
spelled out with
coconuts, maybe
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Where the tibia
is
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Messy sandwich
filler … or a hint
to this puzzle’s
circled letters
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Hand: Sp.
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Color printer
purchases
64
“Well, ___!”
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Editor’s “On
second thought”
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Prominent part
of a Groucho
disguise
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What “N” is for,
in a Sue Grafton
title
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Sweatshop
regulator, for
short
3
iPad screen
feature
4
Vote in France
5
Meet a
challenge, say
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Classic beer
once brewed in
Detroit
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Ogre
8
Fleming who
created 007
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“For shame!”
10
San Diego
setting, informally
11
“How does it feel
…,” in Dylan’s
“Like a Rolling
Stone”
12
In a New York
minute
13
Kansas city
18
Mexican money
22
Unrefined
23
N’awlins sandwich
24
Prime draft
classification
25
Modern
alternative to a
taxi
26
Bit of band
equipment
27
Roast pig side
dish
28
Oversaw
32
Word cried
before “on it” or
“lost”
33
iPad reading
35
“Nattering” sort
in a Spiro Agnew
speech
36
Off-white shade
37
Opportunity
38
Tide competitor
39
___-Lo Green,
former coach on
“The Voice”
40
Sends to the
canvas, for short
43
Sudden
contractions
44
So yesterday
45
Writer’s credit
47
Open-ended
threat
48
Part of
Hollywood?
49
Stranded during
the winter, say
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North Dakota city
with a nearby Air
Force base
52
Some inveterate
users of steroids
55
Go it alone
56
Balls
57
___-Ball
59
A.T.M.
requirement
60
“___ momento”
61
Mahmoud
Abbas’s grp.
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ASTROLOGY
E u g e n i a L a s t
GOREN BRIDGE
Tuesday, September 15, 2015
WITH BOB JONES
©2015 Tribune Content Agency, LLC
OPPORTUNITY KNOCKS
Both vulnerable. South deals.
NORTH
♠
K J 5 3
♥
J 8 5
♦
J 10 3 2
♣
A 6
WEST
EAST
♠
6
♠
10 9 4
♥
A Q 10 7 2
♥
4 3
♦
9 6 5
♦
Q 8 4
♣
K 10 8 3
♣
Q 9 5 4 2
SOUTH
♠
A Q 8 7 2
♥
K 9 6
♦
A K 7
♣
J 7
The bidding:
SOUTH WEST NORTH EAST
1
♠
Pass 3
♠
*
Pass
4
♠
All pass
*Invitational
Opening lead: Five of
♦
When playing duplicate bridge,
simply making your contract may not
result in a good score. Should other
declarers find a way to make an
overtrick, you must also find one or
suffer a poor score. South in today’s
deal was Ginny Swift, of Gulfstream,
Florida. She was struggling to make
an overtrick when an unexpected
opportunity came up.
The opening diamond lead went to
the jack, queen, and ace. Swift drew
trumps in three rounds before cashing
the king of diamonds and leading a
diamond to dummy’s 10, noting the
3-3 split in that suit. Had the trumps
split 2-2, she could have eliminated
the clubs, crossed back to dummy
with a trump, and led a heart. She
would have covered any card West
played, except the ace, and assured
herself of an overtrick. The actual 3-
1 trump split prevented the late entry
needed for that line to work.
She discarded a club on the long
diamond, planning to ruff the last
club and lead a low heart from her
hand toward dummy’s jack. This
would result in an overtrick anytime
East held the heart ace, plus anytime
West held the heart queen. That play
was due to succeed, but when East
followed innocently to the second
club with the five, Swift saw an
opportunity that she couldn’t resist.
Rather than ruffing the six of clubs,
she elegantly discarded a low heart.
Bingo! West had to win this trick and
give her the king of hearts, or yield a
ruff-sluff. Making five!
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ANNIE’S MAILBOX |
ADVICE
Totaled car also damages the family
TUESDAY, SEPT. 15, 2015
CELEBRITIES
BORN
ON THIS DAY:
Prince Harry,
31; Tom Hardy, 38; Tommy Lee
Jones, 69; Oliver Stone, 69.
Happy
Birthday:
Don’t
let responsibilities limit you.
Concentrate on meeting your
expectations so that you can move
on to the things that will bring
you happiness. You should make
adjustments to your life this year
that will help you eliminate the
clutter and nonsense that has
occupied so much of your time
in the past. Strive for personal
freedom. Your numbers are 7, 15,
22, 29, 32, 35, 49.
ARIES (March 21-April 19):
Live, love and participate. The
more adventuresome you are, the
more you will gain. Share your
thoughts and feelings with some-
one you think is special and you
will get feedback as well as the
help you need to turn your dream
into a reality. 3 stars
TAURUS (April 20-May 20):
Protect your position by offering
to take on more responsibility.
The effort you make will bring
you the biggest return. A day trip,
sending out your resume or going
in for an interview is favored.
Assess your situation and make
changes. 3 stars
GEMINI (May 21-June 20):
Someone will ask for proof or
detailed facts and figures. Simple
and easy-to-follow instructions
will help you get the assistance
you need. There are gains to be
made, but only if you deliver what
you promise. 5 stars
CANCER (June 21-July 22):
Follow your instincts. Someone
with more experience than you
will offer advice. Don’t hesitate
to change your direction or your
position if it helps you emo-
tionally, mentally or financially.
Improve your appearance and you
will boost your confidence. 2 stars
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Strut
your stuff. Engage in talks and
you will dazzle everyone with
your knowledge and insight. A
business trip or visiting someone
you’d like to work with is favored.
Schedule a romantic evening to
improve your personal life. 4 stars
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22):
Tidy up unfinished business. Put
your efforts into getting ahead.
Embrace a challenge and give it
your best shot. Your determination
and insightful approach to prob-
lems will drawpositive attention. A
secret offer will tempt you. 3 stars
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): You
will learn from the interactions
you have with others. Reconnect
with someone from your past
who is working in a field that
interests you. If an opportunity
is offered, take the initiative and
move forward without looking
back. 3 stars
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21):
Someone will keep you in the dark
regarding information you need
in order to make an important
decision. Sniff out any hidden
agenda or motive and you will be
in a better position to negotiate
and take control. 3 stars
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec.
21): Personal changes, pleasure
trips and engaging in banter with
someone you find interesting and
informative will make your day.
Don’t let your competitive nature
tempt you to embellish, exagger-
ate or overspend in order to make
an impression. Keep indulgence
to a minimum. 4 stars
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan.
19): Avoid trouble by harboring
your opinions when you’re better
off focusing on potential deals and
tying up loose ends. Don’t let your
emotions cause you to engage in a
discussion that is likely to end in a
stalemate. 2 stars
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18):
Look at the big picture and ana-
lyze what’s required in order to
get what you want. Step up and
participate using your sharp mind
and your skills in a unique man-
ner. Love is favored, so put time
aside for romance. 5 stars
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20):
Your unusual way of doing things
will confuse the people around
you. Offer an easy-to-follow over-
view of what you are doing in
order to avoid opposition and
setbacks. Be open to reasonable
suggestions from others. 3 stars
Birthday Baby:
You are intel-
ligent, charming and passion-
ate. You are competitive and
persistent.
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