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Dear Annie:
A good
friend of mine was
recently married, and I
was her maid of honor
and happy to do it. The
bride had only one other
woman in her bridal
party, a high school
classmate who now lives
halfway across the coun-
try. That meant all of
the bridal party duties
became my responsibility.
I thoughtfully planned,
budgeted for and hosted
both the bridal shower
and the bachelorette
party. I slaved over my
wedding reception speech
and mustered up my
courage to deliver it. I
wanted everything to be
memorable and joyous,
and I especially wanted
the bride to know that
this was her time to shine.
So you can imagine my
dismay when the bride
and groom neglected to
mention any member of
the bridal party when
thanking special people
in their speech. The bride
admitted that they wrote
their speech on a whim,
and although she later
acknowledged that she
had forgotten to thank
her bridesmaids, I am
still resentful weeks later
for her lack of appreci-
ation for my efforts.
The groom was
thoughtful enough to
take to social media in
the days following the
wedding to thank his
groomsmen “for every-
thing.” I imagine if the
bride had followed in her
new husband’s footsteps,
I’d have been so grateful.
Am I wrong to feel this
way? — Maid of Dishonor
Dear Maid:
There is
no “right” or “wrong” way
to feel. The bride dis-
played a lack of consid-
eration by not preparing
enough of a speech to
be sure the appropriate
people were thanked.
More importantly, she
should have been apol-
ogetic enough to make
up for it afterward.
Those, like you, who
put a great deal of time
and energy (not to
mention money) into
someone else’s big event
deserve to be acknowl-
edged and thanked. It
sucks the joy out of the
party when you feel
your efforts were not
noticed or appreciated,
and it makes the bride
seem self-absorbed and
ungrateful. It may be
her “big day,” but other
people helped to make
it possible, and there is
no excuse for treating
them poorly. We hope
she figures it out before
she has no friends left.
Dear Annie:
Can
you handle another pet
peeve? Mine is people
who blow their noses
into a napkin at a restau-
rant. Don’t they realize
that a server must then
pick up that used napkin
with their bare hands?
They then serve my plate
after having touched
your used napkin. It is
extremely unsanitary
and unappealing.
I recently witnessed a
friend do this with a cloth
napkin in a more upscale
restaurant. I don’t even
want to go out to eat with
these people anymore. —
Kay from Pennsylvania
Dear Kay:
People
who need to wipe their
noses at dinner should
know enough to carry a
handkerchief or bring
a small container of
tissues, which are easy
enough to find in any
drugstore or grocery and
will fit inside the tiniest
purse or back pocket.
You might bring an extra
one and offer it to the
next person who grabs a
napkin for this purpose.
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