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Dear Annie: I
am
confused about how to
handle my husband’s
ex-girlfriend, who shows
up at his family funerals
and stays three hours
at the visitation hang-
ing with my husband
and reminiscing about
the past. They discuss
things out loud with
no respect for me.
This woman is married,
but never comes to these
gatherings with her hus-
band. And my husband
still does her taxes, even
though I told him he
shouldn’t. He’s opening
the door to trouble.
I do trust my husband,
but not her. She defi-
nitely is still attracted
to him, and it shows. Is
her behavior normal, or
should I tell her at the
next funeral to pay her
respects and leave? —
Not Jealous, Just Hurt
Dear Not:
Please
don’t let your insecurities
cause you to overreact. If
you trust your husband,
it doesn’t matter what
his ex-girlfriend does.
And how often does the
family have funerals that
you need to worry about
this? We agree that she
is being inappropriate-
ly flirtatious, but it is
only a big deal if your
husband responds in a
similar fashion. We sug-
gest you chummy up to
this ex-girlfriend at these
events. It will totally baf-
fle her, greatly impress
your husband and make
her less of a threat to you.
Dear Annie:
You
printed a letter from
“Expecting Mom in the
Midwest,” who asked
for a response when
rude people ask, “Was it
planned?” You suggest-
ed, “Why do you need to
know?” I think a good
answer would be, “Of
course! God planned
it!” I love your column.
— Bossier City, La.
Dear Bossier City:
Your response was by far
the most popular one we
received. We appreci-
ate all who sent in their
personal preferences.
Here are a few samples:
From Pat
: Your
response was masterful.
Another retort (not orig-
inal to me) would be: “If
people ask you, tell them
you don’t know.” And a
gentler response: “I’m
hurt by your question.”
El Paso:
In my opin-
ion, a better answer to
this question is: “Well,
I guess that’s really
between my husband and
me. Don’t you agree?”
R.:
I would simply
say, “Yes, it was planned,
but if we plan another,
should we inform you
first?” There seem to
be more ignorant and
stupid people in today’s
world, and they have
no filters between their
brains and mouths.
P.:
When asked, “Was
this pregnancy planned,”
I would say, “I give up.
Was it?” I have used this
more times than I can
say, and it always works.
Mother of Twins:
I would simply ask,
“Were you?”
Tyler, Texas:
Someone
could reply, “It was more
planned than the ques-
tion you just asked!”
Salisbury, Pa.:
I’ve
found this response
works: “Why in the world
would you ask such a
personal question? It’s
rude, and you’re nor-
mally not a rude person.
Are you feeling OK?”
Whenever you end with
a question, the other
person feels compelled
to answer. So throw it
back in their court, and
watch ‘em squirm. They
deserve a little squirming.
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