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Dear Annie:
My wife,
“Kate,” and I are in our
early 40s and have been
married for 15 years.
We have two children.
Kate has a deeply
troubling emotional
dependence on her
parents that shows no
sign of changing. They
wanted to come with
us on our honeymoon,
which I initially thought
was a joke. It wasn’t.
I flatly refused, and
Kate became angry.
Early in the marriage,
I overlooked a lot of this
overcloseness, because
I thought she would
eventually grow out of
it when she became a
wife and mother. But it
hasn’t happened. Kate
calls her parents every
day and discusses all
of our personal issues
with them. She has
let me know that they
come before the rest of
us and always will.
We’ve tried counseling
several times, but she
cannot or will not
change and it leaves
me frustrated. The only
reason I’m still in this
marriage is because of
my kids. I’m ready to
find a girlfriend. What
should I do? — Stuck
in San Francisco
Dear Stuck:
Finding
a girlfriend will not
ease the problem with
your wife, so let’s not
do that. When someone
marries, the spouse
should always come
before the parents, even
though some parents
don’t like that and may,
in fact, encourage the
grown child to put
them first. This is unfair
to the child, keeping
them infantilized and
dependent. Kate wasn’t
mature enough to get
married, but you expected
her to change anyway.
The fact that Kate
phones her parents
daily is not a big deal.
But discussing personal
marital issues with them
allows them to be a bigger
part of your marriage
than they should be,
and Kate refuses to
change that. You need
to determine which
aspects of this are worth
being upset about, and
which are unimportant
to the basic well-being
of your children and
your marriage. Please
get counseling, with or
without Kate, so you
can work on this.
Dear Annie:
I read
the letter from “Need
Some Relief,” the couple
in their 70s who were
tired of hosting all the
holiday dinners.
When my mother got
sick, my sisters chose to
host the big twice-a-year
family dinners. When
Mom recovered, she still
didn’t feel up to cooking
for an army of children
and grandchildren, so
we did a potluck-style
dinner. The sisters who
keep kosher were in
charge of cooking the
turkey and other major
dishes. My brother
and I (who don’t keep
kosher) brought raw
ingredients and cooked
at Mom’s. Of course, we
all cleaned up after.
We estimated the cost
of all the ingredients and
divided it equally. (Middle
children are very stuck
on “fair.”) Mom provided
the location, plates, cups,
etc. Mom said the only
downside was that she
didn’t have leftovers for
the rest of the week. —
Huntington, Mass.
Dear Huntington:
Thank you for pointing
out how well things can
turn out when everyone
pitches in and no one
expects Mom (or anyone
else) to do all the heavy
lifting. You found a
way to make it work.
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Buddy of
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Hillbillies”
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Music and
dance, for two
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Witchy sort
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Foam on a beer
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Spring event
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Locale of the
Île de la Cité
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Rug rat
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Prefix with
brow
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“___ Yankees”
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Pointed
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“Well, I’ll be!”
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Highway
investigation
site
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Goal of
exercise
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It’s a laugh
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Had home
cooking
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30 minutes, in
the N.F.L.
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Classic car
inits.
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Request from
one seeking
help from
above
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Santa ___
winds
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90° angle iron
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Riches
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Street one
block over from
Second, maybe
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Castor bean,
for one
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Like clothing
customized
from raw fabric
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Show age, in a
way
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Steer clear of
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Lotion additive
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2016 Olympics
city
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Little pup
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Phrase over a
movie poster
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“Help me,
Obi-Wan
Kenobi,” e.g.
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Wows
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Invalidate
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Draped dress
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Work well
together
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a lampshade
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words
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“Leningrad”
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One scoring
100% on
Sporcle
quizzes, say
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informally
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Madrid’s ___
Sofia Museum
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Hotelier
Schrager who
co-founded
Studio 54
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Dedicated
poem
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Prison riot town
11
Hot to trot, e.g.
12
Spoken for
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Alfred Nobel,
for one
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Beneficial
baseball outs,
for short
22
Post-eruption
phenomenon
24
Oklahoma city
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Hoax
27
Sound in body
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F.D.R.’s dog
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Winner (and
host) of the
1966 FIFA
World Cup
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Pronoun for a
ship
33
Grocery item
known as “The
San Francisco
Treat”
34
Flagrant
35
Linear, for short
37
Footnote abbr.
38
Movers’ trucks
39
Figure (out)
43
Cocktail often
served with
a pineapple
garnish
44
Wise-looking
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Wise to
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Complains
47
Throat dangler
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Contents of an
HP cartridge
49
Chair designer
Charles
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Former New
York archbishop
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Title word
before
“You,” “U” or
“Yesterday” in
hit songs
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Engine part
58
“You ___ me
one”
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___-cone
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5 Sonic the
Hedgehog
developer
9 “Take Me Out to
the Ball Game”
instrument
14 High-resolution
film format
15 Spanish cross
16 Lariat loop
17 Political
nickname for the
Pacific states
19 Up and about
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21 Departs
23 Tiler’s calculation
25 Civil War side:
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entrée
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the womb
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soprano whose
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anagram of the
ends of the four
longest puzzle
answers
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Schiaparelli
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timespans
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botanical layers
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leaf’s edge
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Wind” plantation
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crows
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enshrined in a
Venice basilica
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fruitlessly
66 Foppish
neckwear
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York’s western
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taxes
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3 Inane
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actors
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brand
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8 Early Mexicans
9 At the movies,
perhaps
10 ’90s candidate H.
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12 “Yeah, sure”
13 Soft ball maker
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substitute
22 Waste
receptacle
24 Dr. J hairstyle
26 Motel in a
Hitchcock classic
27 Energetic
28 Shopping frenzy
30 Map in a map
31 “__ you coming?”
32 String quartet
member
33 Fertile desert
spot
34 Pool table slab
37 “Becket” star
Peter
40 Come to a close
42 Price
45 Miss in the game
of Clue
47 Mattress choice
50 49th state
52 Jazz pianist
Lewis
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projectile
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58 Third-oldest U.S.
university
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62 Good-sized
backyard
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series record
label
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E u g e n i a L a s t
GOREN BRIDGE
Tuesday, October 6, 2015
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WHAT TO DO?
North-South vulnerable. East deals.
NORTH
♠
7 5
♥
K 4 2
♦
10 8 4 3 2
♣
A 9 7
WEST
EAST
♠
Q J 9
♠
A K 10 6 4
♥
10 8 6 5 3
♥
9
♦
A 7 6 5
♦
K Q J 9
♣
3
♣
8 6 5
SOUTH
♠
8 3 2
♥
A Q J 7
♦
Void
♣
K Q J 10 4 2
The bidding:
EAST SOUTH WEST NORTH
1
♠
2
♣
2
♠
3
♣
Pass 3
♥
Pass 4
♣
Pass 5
♣
All pass
Opening lead: Queen of
♠
Had East ventured a three-diamond
bid at his second turn, East-West
might have competed to four spades
— a contract that would be difficult
to defeat. Even after a trump lead, the
defense would still have to find a
diamond ruff to defeat four spades.
On the normal king of clubs lead,
North would have to overtake and
give South a diamond ruff. South
would then have to underlead his ace
of hearts to North’s king for a second
diamond ruff. Hard work! It’s just as
well that North-South bid to five
clubs.
West’s queen of spades opening
lead held the trick, as East played a
discouraging spade. West shifted to
the ace of diamonds, ruffed by South,
who immediately led a low spade.
South could not be prevented from
scoring a spade ruff in dummy for 11
tricks — making five.
Had West shifted to a heart,
instead, he would have been able to
win the second spade and give
partner a heart ruff. Should West be
faulted for shifting to diamonds
rather than hearts? Of course not!
East had the winning defense right in
front of him. East should have
overtaken the queen of spades and
led a heart himself. West would have
an easy defense from there on and the
contract would have been defeated.
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ANNIE’S MAILBOX |
ADVICE
Wife still clings to parents after 15 years
TUESDAY, OCT. 6, 2015
CELEBRITIES BORN ON
THISDAY:
Jeremy Sisto, 41; Amy
Jo Johnson, 45; Elisabeth Shue,
52; Britt Ekland, 73.
Happy Birthday:
Pull every-
thing together this year. It’s time
to show everyone what you are
capable of. You can stabilize
your life and your relationships.
Discipline and hard work will
help you prove that you have more
to offer and that you are capable
of handling whatever responsi-
bilities you are given. Your solid
reputation will be your ticket to
success. Your numbers are 4, 12,
18, 24, 30, 37, 48.
ARIES (March 21-April 19):
Romance, passion and enjoying
life should be your aim. Consider
a little pick-me-up and update
your look or attend an inter-
esting night of entertainment.
Relationships will undergo an
overhaul. Be ready to reveal your
true feelings. 5 stars
TAURUS (April 20-May 20):
Take a trip and listen to what oth-
ers have to say, and you’ll expand
your knowledge and have better
insight into future trends and
what you have to do in order to
get ahead. Don’t let love cost you
financially or emotionally. 2 stars
GEMINI (May 21-June 20):
Stick close to home and do your
best to make domestic improve-
ments that will make both you and
those you live with comfortable
and content. Stay within your bud-
get and share your plans and deci-
sions with those you love. 4 stars
CANCER (June 21-July 22):
Live and learn. The mistakes you
have made in the past should help
you avoid making the same poor
choices now. Make alterations to
how or where you live and you
will feel better about your future.
A spiritual journey will be enlight-
ening. 3 stars
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22):
Romance is highlighted. Share
your ideas with a friend or lover
and make changes to the way you
do things professionally. Satisfying
your dreams, hopes and wishes
will lead to greater success and
happiness. Be realistic regarding
health and money matters. 3 stars
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22):
Don’t believe everything you are
told. If someone tries to push or
bully you, walk away. Take charge
instead of waiting for someone
else to take over. Helping others
will bring interesting rewards your
way. Avoid secret involvements. 4
stars
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Be
a leader and position yourself for
success. Showing compassion and
understanding, along with being
innovative and offering solutions
and suggestions, will give you
the edge you need to bring about
change and make things happen.
Romance is encouraged. 4 stars
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21):
Do your own thing. Determination
will be all you need to accomplish
your goals. You will have an impact
on those around you. Some will be
cheering you on, and others will be
trying to bring you down. Fight for
your rights. 2 stars
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec.
21): Your desire for adventure will
take over. Make plans to take a day
trip or sign up for something that
will enhance your skills or knowl-
edge. A romantic commitment will
bring favorable changes to the way
you live and where. 5 stars
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan.
19): Be careful how you approach
people. The less you say, the easier
it will be to pursue your goals.
Focus on your personal business
plan and getting any matters that
concern health or settlements put
to rest. 3 stars
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18):
You’ll make an impact on someone
by mapping out a way to build
greater personal security for you
and your family. Presenting your
plan by incorporating it into your
everyday routine will make others
take notice. Turn your idea into a
service. 3 stars
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20):
Look at the big picture and do
whatever it takes to get your ideas
up and running. Once you have
some momentum, everything else
will fall into place and you will find
the support you need. Trust in your
abilities. 3 stars
Birthday Baby:
You are enter-
taining, tolerant and charming.
You are unique and adaptable.
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